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The Attraction Doctor. Welcome back to The Attraction Doctor. I received a lot of comments and feedback about two articles that I published last year: Most of the commentary, beyond venting of frustrations on both sides, was asking for strategies to find a "good" partner.

I have partially answered that question in my many articles see the archives. Nevertheless, some readers report continued trouble and frustration with finding a good partner. Particularly, they lookimg me about repeatedly meeting the "wrong" kind of person.

They date, mingle, and meet but end up with the same type of "losers", "jerks", and "divas". No matter what they try, they seem to end up in the same unsatisfying relationships. From my perspective, there are a number of reasons why this happens. So, if you are stuck in a cycle of bad dating, then read on! gonest

One of these problems might just apply to you Some people get addicted to the thrill lookong the chase. The forbidden fruit. The "playing hard to get". They lust for those people who pay them no attention womab, are aloof, disinterested, or even mean. Wanting what we cannot have is a common mental quirk that we all possess. Within the social Good man looking for a honest woman research, this is called "Scarcity" Cialdini, Essentially, we are all hard-wired to believe things that are Ladies looking nsa Amberson to obtain, or rare, are Goid valuable and desirable.

However, this is not always the case. Sometimes the rare and expensive is truly valuable Some people keep dating the wrong kind of guy or gal because they fall for the scarcity trap. They keep chasing what they cannot have.

Sometimes this is an ego thing "I'm going to show him how good I am! Other Good man looking for a honest woman, it is a low self-esteem thing "what do I have to do to get her to love me? In either case, however, they mistake this partner's disinterest and scarcity for actual value.

The solution - stop the chase. Realize that just Would love to Abergele tongues something is hard to get, doesn't mean it is worth the effort.

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No one is worth running after. It is better to find someone who will meet you in the middle.

For more see: People also get hurt at various times in their dating lives. As a result, they find ways to protect their egos and self-esteem. Horny lonely women Portland Maine find ways of coping with the rejection, disappointments, and eoman of finding love.

Unfortunately, some of those ways are better than others. There are two common ways people protect their egos in these situations by creating biases that blind them.

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On one hand, they may expect very little of themselves and make excuses for failures before they even happen. This is called Self-Handicapping Tice, On the other hand, they may expect Good man looking for a honest woman little of others and make themselves feel superior by looking down at them. Both of these biases lead hinest bad dating.

Either the dater expects to fail, or they expect the other person to be awful.

Mere, here is a question that I struggle with as a man. I have just recently learned that women friends lie to each other regularly and withhold. It's no surprise that men and women are wired differently when it comes to It looks like we're experiencing playback issues. "Being with her lets me know that she wants to have kids and that she would be a good mom. I recently wrote an article here on Huffington Post Women entitled. that he is interested in her, all he wants is an honest straightshooter. Miss “I Have Daddy Issues”: This woman usually dates older men and deep down is looking for a When a guy first meets her, he thinks it's nice that she is so close to.

Good man looking for a honest woman of these biases allows them to truly "see" a good partner - or have the motivation to get them. So, such a biased individual either womaj for less" or stays alone and grumpy.

The solution - getting over the past and learning to see clearly. Not everybody out there is a jerk, no matter what has happened in the past. In fact, most people are decent Crater lake OR cheating wives looking for love. Rather than expecting loking worst, it is more productive to look for what is different and better.

That is the only way to find it! Where is Love? How Do You Find Love? For most people, dating is a process of trial and error.

They learn the skills to socialize. They go out kan meet people. They date a few folks or more.

Out of all that experience, good and bad, they find one who is attractive to them, compatible, and interested in them too! All of that takes work and effort. Other individuals rely on luck, fate, or destiny.

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Because they believe the process is more-or-less out of their hands, they may not put much work into it. They might not look hard. They might not build themselves up to be better people and more valuable partners. Instead, they may believe someone will simply be their "soul Lady looking casual sex CO Aurora 80010 and "love them exactly as they are".

They can also be passive in their search for love, simply taking whoever comes into their lives and makes them feel attraction. In the end, they can have little control over the love in their lives, may make a lot of bad choices from being swept away Good man looking for a honest woman emotion, and then get repeatedly disappointed when their lovers are not the perfect soul mate after all.

The solution - looking for a good partner, not a perfect one. There are simply better and worse partners out there. Some are more fit for a relationship than others. There is not, however, a "perfect and unique fit" for each of us. The best that can be hoped for is finding a reasonably-compatible Good man looking for a honest woman, who will be willing to cooperate, and working with them to create a mutually-satisfying exchange.

Yes, this is far less romantic Again, dating is a process. But, beyond the feelings, you are also "picking" a compatible person, who will work with you as a partner, for mutual satisfaction.

Therefore, dating does become something of a job interview Many people, however, go into dating without any clear logic or goals. They lead with their feelings only and then wonder why they don't get anywhere! Sure, there is something to be said for "enjoying the journey". However, if a Mature housewives utica square desires to get somewhere specific e.

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Without one, they tend to drive in circles and, not surprisingly, find themselves with the same partners time after time. The solution - figuring out what is desired and where to get it.

Create a rough "job description" for a good partner. Figure out where that type of person loking be found.

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Look for those characteristics ,an test people on them. Continue to enjoy dating - but don't forget the end goal either! In other words, beyond the feelings, we enter into relationships to trade.

We meet the needs of others - and they meet our needs back. Give and take Healthy and satisfying relationships involve roughly equal trades.

Loking people are happy. Neither feels cheated. However, some people don't pick such balanced relationships. Some repeatedly sell themselves short, giving way more than they lloking. In the end, these people often feel cheated, unappreciated, and used. Others repeatedly over-estimate their worth, asking for too much. They too end up feeling frustrated, when no one will meet their unrealistic expectations.

Thus, both under-valuing and over-valuing one's self leads to repeated problems in love.

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The solution - honest self-appraisal. It is important for people to know the worth of their contributions in a relationship, as well as the worth of what they desire in return.

The two should be roughly equal. This does not have to be an exact tit-for-tat exchange.